Why should anyone date someone they don’t have feelings for?
I know it’s a mystery to you.
How do people pretend to be in love when they are not?
Personally, I have found out that I can’t pretend to be in love with any lady, regardless of how beautiful she looks.
If I don’t have feelings for you, then I don’t.
However, some men are skilled at pretending to be in love.
Fortunately, even the skilled pretenders can’t always be perfect.
There are several telltale signs that they exhibit even while they pretend.
And if you intentionally searched for this article, the odds are you already have a gut feeling that tells you he doesn’t have feelings for you.
I am not saying your gut feeling is right, though.
Some guys can present mixed vibes because of various other reasons.
They could be dealing with past traumas or unsure about their feelings for you.
To help you identify a guy who has no feelings for you, I have compiled an extensive list of signs a man doesn’t have feelings for you.
Come along!
10 Signs He Doesn’t Have Feelings For You
1. You are always the first to call or text
Of course, this is not a high school relationship where you keep scores of who calls or texts the most.
However, even in a mature relationship, if you are the one always calling or texting first, it is a sign that there is something wrong.
When a guy has feelings for you, he is definitely going to want to text or call you sometimes.
He won’t just sit around, waiting for you to be the first to call or text him.
No matter how busy he is, he is going to want to talk to you.
Now, he may not act on this impulse all the time but if he doesn’t initiate communication a major chunk of the time, it could be a sign he has no feelings for you.
If he never reaches out to you via texts or calls, you may just be in a relationship with yourself.
2. He lets your calls and texts go unanswered
It is one thing if he doesn’t initiate calls or texts, but it is another thing for him to ignore your calls and texts.
The former is bad but the latter is worse.
He isn’t even trying to pretend that he likes to talk to you.
It gets even worse if he replies in a monotone whenever he gets to talk to you, as if you are forcing him to speak.
He doesn’t sound interested in what you are saying and probably doesn’t even listen to you when you speak.
When a man is into you, he will not only love to communicate with you but will also try his best to keep the conversation interesting.
3. He spends as little time with you as possible
I am sure you have heard of how “absence makes the heart fonder.”
In this case, it is actually the opposite.
He seems to be more indifferent to you the longer he stays away from you.
He doesn’t ever make plans to see you so it’s always left to you to make plans for him.
Whenever you try to initiate hangouts, he usually sounds reluctant to come.
He gives countless excuses about how busy he is at work or in school to explain why he can’t spend time with you.
Don’t get me wrong, he could actually be busy.
But a man who has feelings for you can’t be too busy to spend time with you.
He makes time out of his busy schedule for you.
So, if spending time with you seems to be more of a matter of convenience than a desire for him, you need to reassess your situation.
The odds are you are the only person who has feelings for anyone in the relationship.
4. He doesn’t talk about the future with you
Just in case, he presently communicates with you well enough, another sign a guy has no feelings for you is when he doesn’t include you in plans.
You must realize that I am not talking about commitments like engagements or the number of children you want to have.
I mean something as basic as plans for the immediate future.
I remember the time I was dating a lady who didn’t stay in my State.
I would make plans to visit her occasionally.
I would initiate the conversation the month before so we could plan towards it.
At that point, I wasn’t planning on proposing, but I still saw a future for us.
If your man finds it hard to make plans with you, it could be a sign that he doesn’t view the relationship as permanent.
5. He is not affectionate with you
One probable sign that a guy doesn’t have feelings for you is when he doesn’t show affection.
I said “probably” because some guys are just wired that way; stoic and unexpressive.
For the most part, this is a product of the kind of upbringing they had.
However, if hugs, handholding, kisses, and other physical gestures that express affection are rare in your relationship, it may be a sign that he doesn’t have feelings for you.
Especially if he also avoids spending time with you and communicates with you like he would rather not.
6. He remains an emotional enigma to you
When you are asked for the strongest fort in the world, the “Walls Of Constantinople” doesn’t come to mind.
Rather what comes to mind is your man.
He is an emotional enigma to you.
It feels like he has set up an emotional fortress and relates with you from the safe encampment of the walls.
He is not open to you about anything.
Vulnerability is something he doesn’t do with you.
It just feels like there is an emotional barrier between the both of you.
It feels like he doesn’t have emotions except anger.
Every man has emotions and if he is not opening up to you, it may just be a sign that he has no feelings for you.
7. He keeps on comparing you with his ex
When you are dating a guy who usually compares you with his ex, it is a sign that he hasn’t gotten over here and still feels she is the yardstick for you.
He complains about your actions and says, “If it were Alice, she would have done it better.”
He is constantly bringing up his past relationship and comparing your relationship with it.
You sometimes even feel like telling him, “If the relationship was so perfect, why didn’t you just stay?”…
The fact is, he probably has no feelings for you.
He is using you as a rebound, and if his ex comes back into the picture, he will most likely abandon you before you can say “Jack Robinson.”
When a man has feelings for you, he doesn’t attempt to compare you with his ex.
He knows that everyone has their unique personalities and hence, accepts your flaws and strengths.
This doesn’t mean that he doesn’t encourage you to improve on yourself but he does it constructively without comparing you with anyone.
8. He treats you like an option
I know you have heard this a thousand times but you need to engrave it in your mind…
You are a queen.
You should be his queen in that relationship.
Hence, you shouldn’t be treated like you are just an option.
You are a priority and that’s how a man who has feelings for you will treat you.
He will prioritize your needs and ensure he supports you when you need him.
If your man treats you like you are just an option that he has various substitutes for, it is a sign that he has no feelings for you.
The fact that you have gotten to the point that you can no longer make excuses for his uncaring attitude is a further sign that an unconscious part of you has realized that you are just an option to him.
9. Your inner circle remains yours
In a relationship between people who love each other, there is this tendency for partners to want to be integrated into their lover’s inner circle.
So, if a guy has feelings for you, he doesn’t only introduce you to his friends, but he also wants to meet your friends too.
He wants to get to know the people that form your support system– friends and family.
It is a way of indicating how much he feels about you.
If he is keeping a distance from you and your inner circle, it is a sign that he really has no long-term plans to be around.
He may just be using you for sex which is why he doesn’t want any of your friends to know him.
Either way, he doesn’t want to be known to your inner circle because he really has no serious plans of being with you.
10. He cheats on you
Loyalty is one of the key characteristics of a man who has feelings for you.
Because he has feelings for you, he will be loyal to you.
For most men, the distinction between the woman they have feelings for and other women is clear.
They treat the woman they have feelings for like she is a Queen and they are loyal subjects of the Queen.
Loyalty includes not flirting around with other ladies, not even “harmless flirting.”
But if a man doesn’t have feelings for you, he won’t be loyal to you.
He is still on the lookout for the woman of his dreams while he just passes time with you.
If he finds another woman attractive, he may make advances on her and cheat on you without caring much for the heartbreak you will experience when you find out.
When a man doesn’t have feelings for you, it is not so difficult to detect.
His behavior and body language around you screams indifference and he seems to be absent from your life most of the time.
If you feel neglected in your relationship, it is a great sign that you are in a relationship with someone who has no feelings for you.
So, what do you do?
Don’t act desperate.
You are not meant to beg for love.
You are meant to be loved.
Perhaps, you haven’t found that particular man who will love you just the way you want to be loved but he is out there.
Until he locates you, you need to learn to love yourself.
It will save you a lot of heartache.