Relationships, especially romantic relationships, are very dicey.
Think about it, you are getting involved with someone from a background other than yours.
No matter how much you want to say you are alike, you can’t dispute the fact that you are still very different.
You might have your similarities and even share the same birthday, but it takes genuinely wanting to be together to make it work.
And to be candid, many people in relationships desire that it works between them and their partners, but the truth is, not all of them work.
Sometimes, you get into a relationship today, and everything is rosy. You anticipate a “forever kind of love with my bae”.
And the next minute, things turn sour, and you both part ways.
Before you go on to accuse your ex, let us analyse some things that always cause your relationships to fail, especially when you notice it is already a pattern.
7 Reasons Why Your Relationship Keeps Failing
1. You do not trust your partner.
How would you feel if you were with someone and everything you said was either fact-checked or second-guessed?
Personally, I will feel out of place and more like an impostor because it means I am not wanted there.
A number of things can actually cause someone to have trust issues in a relationship, which mainly stems from experience.
But you forget that your current partner was not the one who either liked you or betrayed you.
Trust is an integral part of any healthy relationship, and the absence of it leaves you and your partner as playthings.
You will not want to be with someone who does not trust you, and what is good for the goose is good for the gander.
If your partner refuses to stay with you because you do not trust him, especially when he has not given you a reason to doubt him, then he’s justified.
So, if you go about living on the fact that you’ve been hurt to judge the intentions of others, you’d keep ending up with failed relationships.
2. You have communication challenge.
Communication is the lifeline of any relationship.
You cannot have a relationship in the absence of communication.
I mean, that is what you do in a larger percentage of your life together as a couple.
You don’t spend the whole day kissing, spooning, making love, or cuddling.
No. You talk.
Talking here is not about indulging in idle talks, gossip, jokes, and all of that.
You can do all of these things and actually not be communicating. That is why you can say you’ve been with them and don’t “really know them.”
Communication is when you’ve been able to express how you feel and your partner understands precisely what you mean, vice versa.
Now, if you cannot do this successfully, you cannot have a solid relationship.
The fact that you’re dating someone does not mean that they automatically understand what you feel or what you meant to say by some psychic abilities.
No, that is not possible and realistic.
On the other hand, if your partner is ready to communicate, but you’re constantly avoiding it, you cannot have a meaningful, successful relationship.
The reason for this is that you will not even have a connection at all.
Access your communication skills, make sure you’re a great listener as much as you are a great talker.
Do not listen to respond; instead, listen to understand, and that way, you’d be able to articulate whatever you want to say and build a better union in the future.
3. Infidelity.
By my standards, cheating is a sign of an unhealthy relationship.
I am not talking about people in open relationships. Now I am talking about people dating in the traditional sense of dating.
For some, cheating is not a dealbreaker, and for so many others, it is.
If you’re with a partner who finds cheating to be a dealbreaker, your cheating on them equates to breaking up your relationship by default.
The one who has been cheated on feels slighted and heartbroken upon the realization of what happened.
And trust me, if cheating is not a dealbreaker for you, it’s better to stay with one who does not find it a dealbreaker, too.
But if you keep dating people who find cheating as a dealbreaker, you are going to be in a series of failed relationships if you cannot commit to just them.
No one will be happy to see the one they love having someone else they are giving their attention to.
We are all incapable of rivalry.
4. Lack of compromise.
I stated earlier that love brings two different people together
These people have different ideologies, perspectives, notions, and dispositions towards life situations and things.
This is very normal in every human relationship.
You’re expected to have different views and perspectives, as long as it does not end in bad blood.
When there is a need to, you should shift grounds also to accommodate each other’s views.
Sometimes you let go of some things, and they let go of some if it is not detrimental to you individually.
Insisting on having to do things your way won’t help because your way is not the only way.
If you keep doing this, you miss out on the best relationships because the world does not move around you and your choices.
5. Incompatible values
You’ve been doing yourself a great disservice if you discover that you have incompatible values with someone and you go ahead to date them.
Values are the core of what keeps you together.
They help you in making choices for the present or the future.
They are what determine if you can operate on the same pedestal.
When you are in sync with your values, you can share a similar outlook on life and everything that it entails.
If people who share the same values have not found it so easy in relationships, imagine what happens circling with someone with whom you do not share the same values.
That relationship is bound to fail.
6. Abuse.
I detest abuse in any form or pattern it comes in.
I say this because some people believe abuse has to do with inflicting physical, bodily harm on the person.
No.
Abuse can be mental, physical, emotional, financial, or psychological.
If you are one to abuse your partner, your relationship will definitely fail.
This is because you are a human-damaging machine.
And when something is damaged, it fails to work.
Abuse will always break down your relationship.
7. Lack of personal growth.
There is a notion currently that the person who loves you will take you for who you are.
Well, after you have been taken for who you are, what have you done to improve who they expect you to be?
This is not even about your partner. This is about yourself.
Imagine dating someone who is big on personal development and advancement, but you are here trying to build your snap score and maintain streaks on TikTok.
You know of every celebrity who goes on live streams and their streaming time.
You know about every trend and sensation going on around the world.
You do not take the time to build on what you have ever had to make you a better person.
If your partner meets someone else on the same level as they are, they are bound to leave you.
This is not because you’re a terrible person, but it is just because you have been left behind in terms of development and the current level that they are at.
The fact that your partner has not broken up with you does not mean your relationship has not ended.
Don’t wait to be left in your relationship before you do the right things.
And if you notice that it is your partner who is doing all of this, you have to have that difficult conversation with them to do better; if not, you should move on with your life without them in it.
I wish you the best.